Maybe the best we can do is let them know that they can choose a better way, much like during the Cold War. But this message has to be focused specifically down to the tribal/individual level, no broad sweeps here. Though nothing makes policy makers happy then saying how many schools have been built so change will have to begin on both sides of this divide.
United States has not helped by frittering away much of its assistance budget on poorly defined programs, such as conflict-resolution training
There has to be a desire to improve. The U.S. can't create that desire.